Summer of Love

Summer of Love

Posted by on Jun 18, 2016 in Autobiography of an Orgasm

One of my favorite movie scenes is towards the end of Harold and Maude when Harold presents Maude with a ring. She admires the ring, looks at him lovingly and then throws the ring in a lake. “There,” Maude says. “Now I’ll always know where it is.”

Qoya Embodying the Sacred Workshop – London

Qoya Embodying the Sacred Workshop – London

Posted by on Oct 14, 2015 in Autobiography of an Orgasm

You’ve read plenty of spiritual and self-help books. Maybe you’ve spent time in therapy. It all helps – but it still feels like there could be more. More love, more joy, more peace. Join Betsy Blankenbaker for a Qoya class and workshop created to invite you into your sacred body.

Qoya Writing Workhop – London

Qoya Writing Workhop – London

Posted by on Oct 14, 2015 in Autobiography of an Orgasm

What is the story you yearn to read? The one that could help you make sense of your life. It’s probably the one you need to write.

My first book, Autobiography of an Orgasm, took two years to write, but that was because I spent twenty-one of those months writing a different book. The original book I was working on was about my life and spiritual path as I travelled between the US and Zimbabwe, and it included a very short passage about a sensual encounter with a man in Africa.

Healing Through Orgasm

Healing Through Orgasm

Posted by on Jun 27, 2015 in Autobiography of an Orgasm

“I am reading your wonderful book and feel compelled to reach out to you. I am 45 and just beginning the journey of healing from a past that is very similar to yours. I share so many of the same experiences as you – it’s interesting to hear my story in your story: early abuse by a neighbor, lack of boundaries, abortion, lack of sexual zeal, divorce, lack of emotional and physical feeling, being disconnected from orgasm, faking it, etc. I’m sure many other women share these experiences, too…”

Autobiographies of Our Orgasms, A Collection of Your Stories

Autobiographies of Our Orgasms, A Collection of Your Stories

Posted by on May 20, 2015 in Autobiography of an Orgasm

I quietly released my first book, Autobiography of an Orgasm, in November of 2014. I self-published with no budget for media or PR. I decided to do the book release party in Miami, a place that had been home for the past seventeen years. The first venue I approached to host the book event turned me down. They didn’t think the book aligned with their corporate image, which was ironic, because their website oozes sex appeal.

Are You Letting Your Soul Breathe?

Posted by on Jan 15, 2015 in Autobiography of an Orgasm

One of the first things I notice when I’m not fully expressing myself is my breath is shallow. I need more sleep. Then, I become edgy and unfocused. Next, I feel full, but I’m still hungry. I may even get a sore throat.

These are some of the signs that remind me I’m holding onto things — keeping things inside. Maybe I’m not speaking up because I’m worried about what others will think. So I let myself get small.

Moving Towards The Light

Posted by on Dec 16, 2014 in Autobiography of an Orgasm

This past January, I was asked to speak at CreavtivCatalyst Week in Downtown Las Vegas about a moment in my life that was a catalyst for change (you can watch my speech here: https://vimeo.com/86375701). There was no one moment to pick from. My life looked like a series of random events that were unrelated. Some of them I planned, many were out of my control. Most of the catalyst moments seemed either sad or funny, like God was trying to see if I could take a joke.

The Value of Listening

Posted by on Nov 26, 2014 in Autobiography of an Orgasm

The week before the release of my book earlier this month, I had a day of self-doubt. Maybe writing the story for myself was enough. Maybe I shouldn’t speak it out loud.

Much of the first chapter of the book was events in my life that I had kept secret for years. I was too ashamed to speak up about my past to even my closest friends and family. Now I was revealing it all in a book. I called my 23 year old daughter Lucy to ask for advice.

What My Friends Are Saying

Posted by on Oct 22, 2014 in Autobiography of an Orgasm

One of my dearest friends has written a remarkable book! I’ve been privileged to read a large portion of it during the editing process and I’m looking forward to its release next month. Betsy Blankenbaker’s writing serves to encourage us all to speak our truth through devoted, clarifying, and caring gestures to self that set one free and make room for new joys.

Finding the Sacred in Every Moment

Posted by on Oct 22, 2014 in Autobiography of an Orgasm

I have a few places I go to retreat and renew, even if I only have 24 hours. Islamorada, in the Florida Keys, is one of those spots. It’s only a 75 minute drive from Miami, but it feels like I landed in the islands and for a few hours I can live in my swimsuit and bare feet.